Widdershins:

(sometimes withershins, widershins or widderschynnes) means to take a course opposite that of the sun, going counterclock-wise, lefthandwise, or to circle an object, by always keeping it on the left. It also means "in a direction opposite to the usual," which is how I choose to take it in using it as the title of this blog. We're all in the same world finding our own way.

Monday, January 2, 2012

Finding Shambhala

Shambhala, I have a hard time with you. Again and again, my home, the West misinterprets, misappropriates, capitalizes on you, and this makes me uncomfortable. I do not understand you, dear Shambhala, though I have heard your story.

According to certain Buddhist teachings there is a mythical kingdom, an enlightened society called Shambhala somewhere near Tibet. In 1984, the Tibetan Buddhist teacher Chögyam Trungpa used the name Shambhala for a book: Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior.

It's a secular book focusing more on the lifestyle of what Trungpa calls warriorship more than any spirituality, though it draws on many principles of meditation and spirituality from religious practices across the world.
I first came across this book a few years ago. I was at a Power of Hope camp, I think my first year as a full-staff volunteer. One of the youth had come across a copy in the small library of Tierra Learning Center, or someone let him borrow it, I don't know. I learned a story that says in a time of darkness in the world the Kingdom of Shambhala will walk the world. These Shambhala warriors essentially will be harbingers of peace and goodness stepping out and teaching that there is another path. It's an allegory because these "warriors" aren't some mythical people streaming out of a kingdom, but the angels, the ordinary people who walk among us awakening to their own potential.

At some point in the last few months I acquired a copy of this little book. I started carrying it with me, reading a page here, a paragraph there, even practicing some of the teachings.

The end of this quarter has made me feel haggard despite my preference for Wilson Library on campus. But then I have started to take steps back and examine my life through this lens of warriorship.

I would find myself asking, where are my thoughts right now? What am I feeling? And I've been learning to appreciate these thoughts for what they are: thoughts. Stress is not a bad thing or a good thing. It's a natural reaction to our environment and thoughts.

My life has been, is stressful. I spread myself pretty thin sometimes being involved and active in my commUnities on multiple levels. To some friends, it's exhausting even thinking about all the stuff I do, let alone actually doing it (and doing it well). Add on top of this the fact that I'd been pursuing a relationship with a gentleman of my acquaintance and grown rather fond of his company, but when we finally “talked” we agreed that we had to be friends first. Which is to say he told me it isn't going to happen like that and though I will admit I cried and I'm still somewhat disappointed and hurt, I respect him enough to recognize I will not change his mind by forcing him to like me. And so moving forward as friends first.

Leading two clubs, working on campus, classes, living on my own, boys, the laundry list never ends and I'm sure for some people it's longer and for others it's shorter but no less difficult. I bring this up not to compare, but to contextualize that for my circumstances I have every reason to feel stressed and often do, but the key here is that I'm learning to question whether or not such stress should stop me from being happy.

It's a lesson I've been learning for years, and I think we're all learning it every day.

And since I've started this practice of warriorship, I've noticed a kind of vulnerability in myself that has come with this learning. Having the luxury of time to myself the last few weeks, I've been working on my meditation and my heART work (a topic I will post about tomorrow) and I've found myself prone to both random fits of sadness and random fits of joy, often at the same time. A certain song will come on or I will read a sentence in my book and as I continue in what I am doing, I will notice I'm crying. I then take a moment to myself and I experience it.

I experience the hell out of those tears. What I've found is that yes, there's sadness. Right now especially there's a deep loneliness that has yet to find solace. But there's also joy; joy so brilliantly bright it hurts. Sometimes there's anger. Sometimes there's laughter so innocent and pure. It's overwhelming; in ways it's exhausting. It's beautiful.

And that's my gift to myself, because in letting myself experience this and in letting myself be overwhelmed, I'm accepting my strength. If that's what I can experience internally in just one short moment by myself, then imagine what kind of glory the world holds! I'm blessed to be here.

Though my language may sound preachy, my place is not necessarily to evangelize. Because as I've said before, I'm at your service. I'm sharing this experience of warriorship, of growth and learning just as much for my mental well-being in coping with this as I am to help foster similar growth within the people around me, regardless which path you take.

I think that's what Shambhala has come to mean to me. In all senses of the word it is in part practice. Practice at life. And to me at least, life is happiness.

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